Breakups are the absolute worst., even when you're the one who initiated because you know it's for the best. But the thing is, you are going to get through it -- even if it feels like you won't, you will. We promise. Check out some of our top tips for dealing with a breakup below, besides eating every cupcake in sight, then catch up on the latest episode of The Bold Type here on Freeform.
1. Let yourself grieve.
Crying is healthy; bottling up your emotions is not. When you go through a breakup, it's perfectly natural to feel sad, heartbroken, angry, jealous, and everything in between. You should embrace each and every emotion as it will help you to work through them.
2. Break off all contact with your ex.
We know how hard this is, but keeping in touch with your ex, at least until you're over them, is not a good idea. It's like a drug. Speaking to them will ease the hurt of your pining for a little while, but then it'll come flooding back worse than before. Staying in touch will also just keep you in the past, which is exactly the opposite of what you want to do.
3. Rely on your friends.
And don't feel bad about it. Your real friends are the only people in the world (aside from your family maybe) who'll let you be totally miserable, who'll talk things through with you, who'll be a shoulder to cry on, who'll stop you from sending that drunk text, and who'll help you when it's time for you to get back out there.
4. Let off some steam.
The chances are you're going to need to. So have a few cocktails, go out dancing with your friends, watch The Notebook on repeat, eat an endless amount of carbs and chocolate, and don't feel bad about any of it. You're going through a hard time so you need to give yourself a chance to let it all out. Then, once you have, you can go back to being a grown-up who gets 8 hours sleep a night and eats their greens.
5. Take up a new hobby.
If you've just broken up with someone then chances are you've got a whole lot of free time on your hands, so why not take up a new hobby? Whether it's cocktail mixing, knitting, or painting, it'll take your mind off the breakup and keep you distracted. Time is the best healer for a breakup so make it pass quickly by keeping busy.
6. Learn from the breakup.
Try and see your breakup as a positive thing and something to learn from. Ask yourself some questions: Should you have done anything differently? Were you an inappropriate match from the beginning? Were you settling? What can you do better next time? Analyze your breakup and grow from it.
7. And at some point, get back out there!
There's a lot of different ideas about when it's the right time to start dating again. Is it when you've processed your past? Is it after six months? Is it when someone asks you out? Well, the truth is that it's when you're ready, and you are the only person who'll know when that is. When that time does come, just remember that you are absolutely fabulous and you deserve the best!