How to Get Your Girlfriend To F*%k Like A Porn Star

by Pinstripe


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Raise your hand if you’ve watched porn before.

Okay, put your hand down literally everyone reading this. You’ve watched porn, but are you studying it? There’s a lot to learn from porn besides an inferiority complex. If you watch the studs and stallions starring in your favorite adult films closely, there are some tricks you can take from the set and into your bedroom. There are some simple things you can do to get your girlfriend to take her erotic game to a level that even Jenna Jameson could appreciate.

Take Your Time.

“Look man, a porn never starts with the actors’ clothes off.” When I asked three-time AVA (Adult Video Award) winner Tre Bagswell for advice on taking your sex to porn star levels, he threw out this simple, but vital tip. “Civilians always do everything too fast,” Bagswell added. Enjoy taking off your clothes. Enjoy taking off her clothes. Enjoy foreplay. Even incorporate a little roleplay as you get things going. Not only will this get her in the mood, but it will make every moment of the experience that much more enjoyable. Of course, before you take on the role of pizza delivery boy in the bedroom, make sure you know how you’re going to get pepperoni stains out of your comforter.

Get Vocal.

Porn is not silent film. Even if the guy is doing little more than repetitive thrusting, he is saying something. If you’ve been mute in the bedroom, it’s time to find your voice. It isn’t just about giving firm commands (but if your girl is into that, become her dirty drill sergeant), it’s also about asking questions. How many times have you heard a porn star ask, “You like that?” If you’re not asking questions, not only are you missing out on some bedroom fun, also porn stars are more progressive than you are!

Get Rough (on her terms).

Secretly, you want to get a little nasty in the bedroom, and she probably does too. But, you’ll never know if you don’t ask. When you’re asking those questions, you can see how dirty she wants to get. Ask, “You want me to pull your hair?” or “Should I spank you? Have you been a bad girl?” If she gives you a clear “yes,” then it’s on.

Work On Your Stamina.

Just because you don’t finish as soon as she takes her top off doesn’t mean that you’re getting the most out of your bedroom experience. Since you don’t have the sheer experience (and fluffers) available, you might not be able to last for hours, but there are some tricks you can try. If you feel like you’re about to explode, take a break for a second, take a deep breath, and get ready to go back in again. If you start consciously trying to extend your sex sessions, you might not make it to Sting levels of tantric skill right away, but your girl will be grateful if you extend the game little by little. The longer you last, the more adventurous she will be.

Do Your Research.

“I watch everything dude. I literally spend four hours a day watching stuff in my downtime.” You might not expect it, but Bagswell is a student of his craft. Just like a great sculptor goes to museums or any musician worth a damn goes to a concert after an all-day rehearsal, great porn stars watch a lot of porn. You’re only as good as your sexual toolbox, so broaden your horizons. So, sit down with your girl and dig into AdultVault’s virtual library. Watch all kinds of porn, from pretentious lesbian softcore to amateurs in the back of the bang bus. And take notes together. Find moves you both want to try and join forces with your girl to bring a new playbook into the bedroom.

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